Fatha Torch: Be the Dad You Wish You Had

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   1. Discipline, Control + Power: Awareness for Black Men, Young Fathers

   Ep. 27 We must recognize that many of us lack self-awareness and struggle to comprehend the repercussions of losing control, and the importance of practicing self-discipline. To establish a healthy relationship with oneself and others, one must exert self-control and manage one's thoughts, which various emotional and developmental factors can influence. This is especially important to consider as a man and a father in today's world. THE TRUTH AND FAULTS OF DISCIPLINE  It's essential to disciplin

   Sep 17,2023 19:42
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   2. Relationships 101: Starting With the Man in the Mirror

   Ep. 26 Relationship 101 provides us with the hope that our values and worth will be acknowledged by someone. It is equally crucial to deeply understand ourselves and the aspects we hold in high regard. It is important to make sure that these values are respected by our partners. Otherwise, we risk compromising our own sense of self-worth and integrity. It is also essential to be open to learning from our partner and growing together in the relationship. SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the F

   Sep 04,2023 28:33
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   3. Fatherhood Unveiled: Rights, Duties, and Emotional Resonance

   Ep. 25 The concept of fatherhood is a joke to many people and systems that govern our society. We have the right to procreate, but our rights to nurture, discipline and guide our children is slipping away every day.In this episode Fatha Torch will help you reclaim your power and authority as a man and be the dad you wish you had. 1: Fathers' Rights and Duties:- Discuss fathers' legal and societal rights regarding parenting, custody, and decision-making.2: Breaking Stereotypes: Embracing Emotiona

   Aug 21,2023 29:16
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   4. Maturing from Man-Child to Father

   Ep. 24 The idea of taking responsibility and being accountable can be intimidating for men who struggle with abandonment issues and commitment-related traumas. Some simply don't care about life or its lessons and behave poorly as a result. It is necessary to break these negative patterns and move on with life, taking responsibility for one's actions and learning from mistakes. This is ultimately the only way to lead a fulfilling and meaningful life for you and your children.                 Why

   Aug 06,2023 28:30
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   5. Discipline Children While There is Hope, Otherwise You Will Ruin Their Lives

   Ep. 23 Being a father requires possessing proper guidance, self-control, and discipline. Discipline should be viewed as a tool to impart knowledge to children about making better decisions in the future rather than punishment. Communicating expectations and consequences calmly, firmly, and consistently is essential to ensure the child comprehends. It's crucial for both parents to work together to ensure the best possible outcome for their child.Proverbs 19:18 NLT"Discipline your children while t

   Jul 23,2023 30:37
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   6. The Truth About Forgiveness: How to Make Peace with Yourself and Be Better for Your Kids

   Ep. 22 Translating forgiveness can be a challenging process, especially when grappling with emotions such as regret, anger, and confusion. It's crucial to clearly understand oneself to avoid getting lost in a world of pain. Taking the time to forgive is important in accepting the situation and moving forward in your journey to be the dad you wish you had. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting but rather understanding and accepting what has happened. It is a path to peace and a way to open the door

   Jul 09,2023 27:25
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   7. Realistic Expectations: Key to Successful Fatherhood

   Ep. 21 Growing up without a father I found myself setting unrealistic expectations on other men in my life, trying to fill the void my father left. But there were always disappointments because those men simply could not give me the things my soul longed for. It wasn't until I learned to set realistic expectations for myself, my partner and my children that I could truly embrace my goal of being the dad I wish I had.In this episode I share with you my journey of self-discovery and how I learned

   Jun 11,2023 37:16
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   8. I Am FATHA: Fathers are the Highest Authority (It’s time we act like it)

   Ep. 20 As fathers, it's imperative that we possess a deep understanding of ourselves. The archaic notion of relying on guesswork to ascertain our worth and capabilities is a thing of the past. We must be cognizant of our duties and rights as fathers, and we shouldn't have to be reminded of this simply because we are fathers. Because we are men, it is our duty to protect our loved ones from any imminent danger without any apologies. We do not rely on mere likes or friend requests for a solution a

   May 28,2023 30:34
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   9. Passing the Torch: Embracing Growth & Maturity as Men

   Ep. 19 Do you want to leave a positive legacy by shaping and guiding the next generation? As 'young elders' we can empower and inspire the youth to reach their full potential and become the leaders of tomorrow. In this episode of Fatha Torch, I, Rah, delve into the topic of the importance of becoming an elder and sharing wisdom with younger generations. As a father and mentor myself, I understand the need to pass down knowledge and experiences for future generations to learn and grow from. I dis

   May 16,2023 28:06
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    10. Honor Thy Grandparent: How to Embrace the Wisdom of Elders to Raise the Youth

    Ep. 18 This episode is a tribute to my grandparents who have shaped my life as Fatha Torch, a beacon of light for the next generation. As a father, I believe it is important to honor our elders and learn from their wisdom, especially in these challenging times. In this episode, you will learn:How honoring your elders is a way of embracing and uplifting our generationsHow to connect with your elders and listen to their storiesWhat benefits you can gain from learning from the wisdom of the pastHow

    Apr 30,2023 20:41
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    11. Stop Being Your Child’s Friend and Start Being Their Leader

    Ep. 17 This episode is a must-listen for parents seeking guidance on discipline and communication with their children.In today's society, many parents walk around on eggshells, and it seems like fathers have no authority when it comes to raising the kids. As an advocate for traditional fatherhood, I have dedicated myself to helping other parents like you reclaim your power and raise kids who respect and obey you. It's important to establish boundaries and respect, rather than trying to be your c

    Apr 16,2023 25:50
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    12. Redefining Masculinity: Balance and Empathy in Relationships

    Ep. 16 Sitting in our favorite pizza joint, Create a Pizza, I felt a sense of peace as we shared a vegan meatball pizza. Little did I know, I was about to embark on a journey that would forever change my understanding of masculinity and empathy. As I conversed with my wife, I realized I had to adapt my behaviors to be a better husband and father. But what happened next was truly unexpected and has left me with a newfound appreciation for life's little moments.The resources mentioned in this epis

    Apr 02,2023 30:45
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    13. Any Fool Can Make a Baby

    Ep. 15 Your dad was an asshole, alcoholic, abuser or just not around to teach you how to be a good man right? So it's up to us the be the change we wish to see in the next generation of fathers.I was surrounded by men who were a waste of time, women who blocked the teaching of fatherhood, and people who were more excited to see a stranger than me. I realized I needed to learn how to be patient with my children, treasure them, protect them from emotional and mental harm, and always be real with t

    Mar 19,2023 24:05
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    14. What Men Fear the Most

    Ep 14 Men fear being unable to provide, being questioned as fathers, and being unable to protect our loved ones. Men often express fear in destructive ways such as aggression and anger, instead of vulnerability. As men we must be mindful of how we express our fear, as it can stifle the growth of relationships and cause resentment. Instead of relying on fear, we should focus on pouring love and protection into our relationships."Love and fear are true motivation. It's only reason why we do anythi

    Mar 05,2023 28:35
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    15. Are You a Good Father? It All Comes Down to This

    Ep. 13 I was once plagued by the question, "Am I a good father?" I asked myself if I was a good man and what it meant to be a good father. After much thought and research, I realized that being a good father means having principles and characteristics such as protecting, loving, reasoning and being patient. It also means being willing to learn and humble yourself, while also being teachable and understanding of your child's mother. Being a good father is more than just providing and setting boun

    Feb 19,2023 29:51
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    16. Developing Healthier Relationships with Kelly Marie of Healthy Illness Podcast (Part 2)

    Ep. 12 In part 2 of his conversation with Kelly Marie, we embark on a journey of self-discovery, learning how to embrace anger, forgive those who have hurt you and relinquish guilt while navigating the complexities of relationships with parents, siblings and even other people who are living with mental health conditions. In this episode we discuss:1. How art and old cartoons can help you cope with depression.2. How to identify and let go of pent-up aggression.3. How to move past guilt and forgiv

    Jan 28,2023 36:41
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    17. Finding Purpose and Reclaiming Fatherhood in 2023

    Episode 11: About last year.... Have faith in yourself. Believe in your abilities to make ends meet, to strive. Lower your pride and lower your ego, that you may do better this year.In this episode, you will learn the following: What are the double standards men face in today's social climate, and what can fathers do to help themselves and their children? How can fathers practice self-love, gratitude, and protect their families in the midst of a chaotic world? What can fathers do to empower thei

    Jan 15,2023 25:03
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    18. Emotional Exhaustion: Coping with the Stress of Fatherhood

    Ep. 10 Emotional exhaustions amongst men can lead to depression and suicide. It is essential to recognize our mental exhaustion and make sure we are taking care of ourselves and our loved ones who are suffering in silence.I am here to offer support and to listen to my brothers and sisters. I want to help them find healthy outlets to cope with anxiety and stress and to be the dad they wish they had. My mission is to help you reclaim their power and to prevent you from taking your own life. I am w

    Dec 31,2022 18:01
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    19. Abolish Fear-Based Assumptions in 2023

    Episode 9 Fear-based assumptions can lead to a parent-child relationship of pain, drama and heartache for all involved. As fathers we often lash out at our kids in order to protect them from the unknown, or to prevent them from getting involved with something that we don't understand but are afraid to admit it.In this episode let's explore another way to approach fatherhood in 2023. 1. What does it mean for a father to actively listen to his children and not assume he knows everything?2. How can

    Dec 18,2022 28:10
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    20. Overcoming the ”You Ain’t Shit” Narrative in Co-Parenting

    Ep. 8  As the father of nine children, I've been through a lot. From being told I'm not worth the skin I'm in to having my child kept from me. I'm constantly reminded of how I'm not a "real man" or that I'm not going to amount to anything.Here's what I cover in this episode:1. What are the consequences of a father being told "You Ain't Shit" by their child's mother?2. What are the double standards in regard to male and female parenting?3. How can parents work together to provide the best develop

    Dec 04,2022 31:33
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    21. Letter to My Youngest Son

    Ep. 7 Young men today are depressed, lonely, low self-esteem, withdrawn, angry, confused. I was talking to my son this morning about his self-esteem, and he told me that he thinks he's average. I had to explain to him that he is worthy of my love and that he is not a mistake.In this episode, you will learn: 1. The importance of talking to your children about self-esteem, self-worth, and love.2. How a child's low self-esteem can impact their future.3. The power of being a father and the responsib

    Nov 20,2022 22:11
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    22. Toxic Masculinity, Rap and Depression with Carl Binger and Joel Lesses

    Episode 6 Does toxic masculinity impact on a man's mental health? Carl Binger and Joel Lesses have some theories.In this episode you'll learn1. How men and women experience and cope with depression differently2. The influence of rap music on mental health and depression3. The importance of nature and wilderness in mental health and depression4. Who has the best chicken wings, Buffalo or Rochester, NYFatha Toch Live Event November 12th 6pm at Charleston House120 East Main Street, Rochester, NY RE

    Nov 06,2022 33:22
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    23. The Other Side of Depression with Carl Binger and Joel Lesses

    Episode 5 Depression doesn't discriminate - even successful, high-functioning people like Carl Binger and Joel Lesses suffer from it. In this episode of Fatha Torch, they open up about their experiences with depression and how they've found ways to cope and thrive."Is he just dumb or is it something deeper?"Depression is a serious issue that many people face, but don't often talk about. For men, depression can be especially difficult to deal with due to societal expectations. Journaling and talk

    Oct 30,2022 39:02
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    24. Spiritual Side of Fatherhood / Unraveling Religion with Joel Lesses

    Episode 4  Unraveling Religion podcast host Joel Lesses sits down with Rah to discuss the personal life of fathers and the spiritual side of parenting. Rah expresses his deep desire to improve the quality of life for fathers, and children and the true meaning of 'Fatha Torch.'Get Involved!Interact with Fatha Torch LIVE on PodbeanLeave a review on Podchaser.Rate Fatha Torch on Apple PodcastBuy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76 to show this support.Follow me on Instagram @Fatha_TorchWant to be

    Oct 16,2022 47:49
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    25. The Father’s Role in a Child’s Development

    Episode 3 I'm an advocate for fathers. I think it's important that we be more available to our children and make an effort to bond with them. Our role in their cognitive, social and emotional development is crucial, and we need to be more present in their lives. Unfortunately, many fathers are absent, either physically or emotionally. But when we are active in our child's life, they will turn out more well-rounded and stable. "When you feel good, they feel good. When you're happy, they're extrem

    Oct 02,2022 28:29
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    26. Qualities of a Father with an Ungrateful Child

    Episode 2 If you are a father of an ungrateful child who is trying your best to keep your cool, this episode is for you. As the man of the house, you should be honored and respected, but we all know that doesn't always happen in this social climate. In this episode Ra explains some of the most important qualities of being a father and under which circumstances you should walk away in order to prevent emotional or even physical damage.    

    Sep 18,2022 24:11
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    27. Is Fatherhood Broken? A Father’s Confession

    Episode 1 If you're looking for a way to be self-aware, become more emotionally available to your children and heal from a broken relationship with your own father than the Fatha Torch podcast is for you.Rah discusses how the concept of being "broken" can lead to a path of self-destruction and how to avoid pitfalls of fatherhood. Through his story you'll realize that fatherhood is not broken, but the traditions of fatherhood have been gravely destroyed.Here's a breakdown of what is covered:[00:0

    Sep 04,2022 32:04
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    28. Be the Dad You Wish You Had

    F.A.T.H.A. T.O.R.C.H. is an acronym meaning: fathers are the highest authorities teaching of rooted cultural heritage.Host Rah is on a mission to help you be the dad you wish you had. Weekly topics include self-love, raising sons vs daughters, the child support system, emotional trauma from toxic relationships, societal injustices and reentry after incarceration. New episodes every other Sunday starting September 4th. 

    Aug 22,2022 02:05