129. Connect Deeply: How to Communicate So People Feel Seen and Heard
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New York Times Opinion columnist David Brooks shares how to communicate so that others feel seen, heard, and understood.
All too often, we communicate without really connecting. The key to building deep connections with others, says David Brooks, is to make them feel seen and heard.
Brooks is a writer for the New York Times, the Atlantic, and the best-selling author of several books. In his latest, How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen, he explores how vulnerability — both being vulnerable ourselves and creating space for others to be as well — is the key to fostering deeper connections at home, at work, and throughout our lives. “[People] need to be seen, heard, and understood,” he says. “If you hide yourself from the emotional intimacies of life, you're hiding yourself from life itself.”
In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Brooks and host Matt Abrahams discuss the fundamentals of communicating with vulnerability and empathy, outlining the skills that anyone can learn and use to connect more deeply in their relationships.
Episode Reference Links:
- Full list of David Brooks books
- Bryan Stevenson
- George Orwell
- C.S. Lewis
- Oprah Winfrey Video
- Ep 64, Carissa Carter: YouTube / Website
- Ep 101, Geoffrey Cohen: YouTube / Website
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